Friendships were on my mind today. I had a few people on facebook that I deleted because I got to thinking were they really a friend ? To be a friend in my eyes is to say a kind word every now and then, give a boost of confidence when we are feeling not the best about ourselves, give a hug when needed, cry when they cry, laugh when they laugh.
When you talk about me behind my back, laugh in my face at something I said that you thought was stupid, when you lie to me, when you lie about me, when you damage my character with vile words...that's not really what I would call a "friend." A friend should not be classified by how you dress, money in your wallet, and how many cars, what type of car, what type of house you have.
I have been blessed to have some very dear friends in my life....no we don't need to call each other every day or several times a day to see what they are doing that very minute. We get together every now and then when time and schedules permit, we call each other just to say hi when we are thinking of them just to make sure they are healthy and happy. We have been thru wonderful times together, and some rough patches. My dear friends don't judge every word that comes out of my mouth...we have belly laughs when we do catch ourselves saying something completely off the wall that may have not come out right.
I have been in
My yoga classes are going amazingly well, which many people scoffed at me when I told them my new direction in life. Well guess what? I get "sitting" ovations from my students at every session. They appreciate me and I so very appreciate them. More people need to learn the philosophy that yoga holds. Which I will enlighten you with a few of the yoga sutras:
1) non harming
2) do not steal
3) do not lie
4) treat others as you would want to be treated
5) no judgement
these are just a few..........hmmmmm kinda sounds like the 10 Commandments and the Golden Rules to me.
Anyway when I started yoga, I always knew it was a "safe" place to go because everyone there had to be in the same frame of mind. Treating each other with kindness and respect.
I know I have been guilty of saying some unpleasantries about some people...but damn it ,their actions to me where just getting plan flat old...and I was not proud of my thoughts or actions.
I read somewhere when there is a person making your life miserable, thank them. So when I was able to leave my last job, I thanked a few of those women in my heart. Because if they hadn't made my life so miserable I would probably not have made this giant leap in life.
One of my yoga students had to go back home due to health reasons. A 75 year old man who took his yoga classes seriously 1 man amoung many women . He didn't show up to the last 2 classes and I started worrying about him, so the day I was going to check up on him, "because that's what friends do", he came at the very end of class "out of respect" to tell me he had to go back home, with tears in both of our eyes we gave each other an endearing hug, because in 6 short weeks I had made a very dear friend with Archie from Canada. When he told me how he lost a son, we cried together. When he wouldn't do some of the poses we laughed together.
Christmas is a time when we should think about our friends and what they mean to us....and keep those thoughts throughout the following year.
A friend is someone you hold dear in your heart.
At the end of every yoga class, we put our hands to our hearts and bow to each other and say Namaste.
Namaste: The divine in me, honors and blesses the divine in you.
I hope this finds you all healthy and happy. Namaste.
Kim ....
